Toughest job there is!

[Irondog]

I've had some tough and difficult jobs, but none of them compare to the job of being a Step Parent. My wife and I got married 4 years ago and she had an 11 year old son. Things started off OK but 6 months into it he decieded to take a pocket knife to school and point it at someone. We ended up dealing with a 1 year expulsion and having to home school. After the year was over we fought relentlessly for 6 months to get him back into public school and finally suceeded.
Here we are 3 years later and we are dealing with another expulsion on the horizon. This time he decided to up the stakes and got caught with pot at school. He bought it from one of the little girls that he started hanging out with. She now faces a felony and our son gets a misdemeanor.
My wife and I had just 2 weeks earlier talked to him about staying out of trouble and had high hopes that he would pass his freshman year without any difficulties. Guess we were wrong.
Our son seems to think that he hasn't done anything wrong and doesn't really care how he has affected our family. What do you do with kids that think they know everything? In the not so old days you could beat them to within an inch of life to get your point across. Now a days you can't hardly touch them without going to jail.
Just goes to show you how fucked up everything really is and how it's going to take everyone to realize that maybe we've taken this passive bullshit to far.

[Meagan]

I suggest you get Dr. Phils book about family 1st. or at least go to his website a look around. I was the 'step-child' once andi wasnt nice. I regret that now. There are A LOT of things that is making him act that way......Good Luck U are going to need it!

[CableMonkey]

Kick his Ass.

[Meagan]

Kick his Ass.

No dont Kick his ass....that will make it worse if he isnt his birth dad......there are lots of things that effect this situation!

[lilmamma]

u r in a power stuggle with him. take all his belonigns except bed covers and clothes, i mean EVERYTHING and take his freedom ground his ass. make him earn back every game toy what ever it is you took then he can earn the right to have his freedomm back, this will talke time and he will raise the stakes on you he will raise them high, dont cave stand your ground.he will give up i promise.his mother must also stand behind y ou 110% no matter what or he wont stop, he is still young, he just want attention and has no idea about how to go about it, so he does bad things and it works, not saying you dont give it ot him just how he feels, he is goig to rebel but u need to stop it, i swear he dont need any of his things, just hte basics he will value them once they are gone and will eventually try to earn it back, make sure you acknowlagde everything good he does no matter how small , trust me it will work
good luck(dont reward bad with attentiuon ;if he has already earned somthing and he fuckes up agin take it back) hel learn try it dont back down stand your ground

[lilmamma]

when i say his freedom he needs grounded to his room he goes nowhere unless its with you his mom or sschool....... he has no phone tv NOTHING NO PRIVLAGES its the caveman times for him till he earns them back... thanks and good luck agin

[Irondog]

Kick his Ass.

This is the way I want to go but I don't think he can handle what I'm capable of dishing out.

[Irondog]

u r in a power stuggle with him. take all his belonigns except bed covers and clothes, i mean EVERYTHING and take his freedom ground his ass. make him earn back every game toy what ever it is you took then he can earn the right to have his freedomm back, this will talke time and he will raise the stakes on you he will raise them high, dont cave stand your ground.he will give up i promise.his mother must also stand behind y ou 110% no matter what or he wont stop, he is still young, he just want attention and has no idea about how to go about it, so he does bad things and it works, not saying you dont give it ot him just how he feels, he is goig to rebel but u need to stop it, i swear he dont need any of his things, just hte basics he will value them once they are gone and will eventually try to earn it back, make sure you acknowlagde everything good he does no matter how small , trust me it will work
good luck(dont reward bad with attentiuon ;if he has already earned somthing and he fuckes up agin take it back) hel learn try it dont back down stand your ground

I agree, I am in a power struggle with him and he knows he can't win. He is already grounded with nothing but his bed and a chair to look at the wall. I keep him very busy with chores that need to be done before I get home.
My wife is behind me because she wants what is best for him and knows that I can produce results if given full control. Problem is, I'm use to dealing with badass Ironworkers and sometimes have a hard time toning it down for regular people. Thanks for your input.

[Irondog]

I suggest you get Dr. Phils book about family 1st. or at least go to his website a look around. I was the 'step-child' once andi wasnt nice. I regret that now. There are A LOT of things that is making him act that way......Good Luck U are going to need it!

Give me some insight to his point of view. This is what I'm lacking. I come from one of those strange and unheard of family's that there are no step parents and was brought up with some very strict rules to live by. Insight would be very helpful.

[lilmamma]

u r welome he'll come around just give it time and stand ur ground