Irondog needs advice!

[Irondog]

So unlike any other ramble I am going to really ask for advice on several items. It's not like I will actually listen and use other peoples advice, but I will at least throw it out there and see what members want to give their 2 cents on.


Question # 1...............



I have a stepson that is 18 years old, has a part time job that pays about $40 a week but lives here at home with mommy and myself. He dropped out of school and still doesn't have his G.E.D. and yet thinks that I will continue to provide a roof and food for him to enjoy.

At what point or time do I say enough is enough and show him the door? Mind you, I have his real mother to answer to and it will be difficult to convince her that the time is right.


Question # 2...........

A few weeks ago I had a problem with another Superintendent, who covered my jobsite for the day, stiring up some shit on my site and made my life a living hell for several weeks because of what he said to upper management.

( Morty knows what I am speaking of here)
Anyways, the project manager that I work with is very good friends with this person and even though I usually am a total asshole I have taken into consideration the fact that my PM and this guy are friends and I have not caused much of a problem. Well as everyone knows, the PM and I threw a "Topping out Party" this week to celebrate the fact that the structure is completed and we are ahead of schedule. Well low and behold, this Super that I speak of made it a point to show up at "OUR" party and totally pissed me off for the simple fact that he should have never been been at my site for this function.

Yet again I acted like a grown up and didn't make a stink but I really want to! Would it be out of line to tell this dipshit to stay the fuck away from my site?

Beyond all of that, I hope everyone had a nice and relaxing Christmas and has plans for a safe New year............. Me............I will be getting extremely drunk in my own home and probably will plan my next stupid stunt for MTW that will yet again shock and make members laugh.

To all of the MTW regulars...............KISS MY WHITE BOY's ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mommysalomi]

#1 ... He is 18 years old.. His options should be he can live at home as long as he is attending school PERIOD !!!! His other option is to get a full time job and take care of himself.. Living at hime not finishing school and letting this go on is not teaching him any life skills at all. What are his plans or will it still be okay for him to be at home with no education at 30 ??? I have seen this and it is not good for him he needs to learn to hold his own he is an adult now. Maybe not mentally but he is still one non the less.. So plain and simple you can live at home as long as you are in school and getting and education. Or get on !!!!!!!!!


#2 I would tell him to get bent !!!!

Happy New Year to you too !!! I also will be home gettin drunk and laid {I hope}

As for kissing your ass clean it first !!!!!

[MD Willington]

call the US Navy or US Air force recruiting office for your stepson....

[SSgt Shak]

Fuck that don't send him over to the Air Force. Last thing I need is another dip shit airman to look after. Besides he would have to have some collage credits to get in to the Air Force now. Thats right we upped the standard.

[smilin heinz]

#1.........a part time job doesn't qualify for work when you are living at home. What else is he doing with his time? I'm pretty sure you and your wife see things the same way when it comes to this stuff. So just talk to her. That's the most important thing.

#2........I guess it depends on the mood of the situation. If your boss doesn't appreciate the ability you have to be open about your opinion of people and what they can do with themselves, it might put your job in jeopardy which wouldn't be worth it! But, if your boss is cool with it, tell him to get the fuck off your site and stay the fuck off your site!

[Layni]

for the first one I think I agree with smilin heinz, what else is he doing? I think you and your wife needs to sit him down and tell him part time job isnt cutting it- he needs to be getting his GED & further schooling or coming up with a plan to support himself- give him a time frame or limit- say by this date you got to at least be making your situation better.

the second, although I do understand the whole, person coming in and messing with stuff that didn't need messing with situation, you need to ask yourself if you're gonna be dealing with this person again in the future- you may want to say something but I would not do it if you think it may have some bad effects later on.

*plan my next stupid stunt for MTW that will yet again shock and make members laugh*
OMG you're not planning on showing your little smokie again are you? It took me so long to get that image outta my head last time.

[Maximal]

Well doggie not that you are agoing to listen but...


1- he is only making $40 a week, what the hell is he doing walking a fucking dog? Tell him to get his ass out there and find a real part time job, or better yet a full time job.

Our rule in our house is as long as you are in school and you will be fed and clothed, after that you are on your own.

2- Whatever you do don't talk to him. Write a nice calm letter or email that explains the situation and keep a copy. That way you can also cc the PM you work with. Friends are friends but work has to come first.

and hell you could always go work with Morty!

[qwazywabbet]

Yeah, you three need to set down and come up with a plan. First, he's going to need a
piece of paper saying he's smart enough to know his ass from a hole in the ground.
GED is great, and most employers respect it alot. Seems you actually have to earn it,,instead of just getting "passed through the system.
Buy him a GED study book,,,most book stores have a couple. Can probably even get one at the library. Help him study,,,pick up the book yourself and give him "pop quizzes".
Hell who knows,,,ya might even learn a couple things yourself. ( I did,,while I was helping my daughter)
Help him find a better job. If he applies for one before he gets his GED,,, have him put
"Working on my GED" in the education part.
Don't make long plans,,,for some of us a year is short,,,to a 18 year old,,it's forever.
So maybe just 4-6 month plans, for his sake. ( like I said,,you 3 need to set down and make a plan for what works for all 3)
And then there's a couple of hard steps,,,,,, he's going to have to earn your trust,,,and you're going to have to let him. Hey,,,if he does something stupid and gets busted,, it's his problem. He's old enough to do the time. But just like anybody else,, he's going to want to spend his money on "fun stuff". (Remember when you was 18 ?)
And you'll probably love this part of my thinking Dog,,,and I know some of you are going to say "Oh I'd never do that". But he is 18,,he thinks he's a man. You charge him rent like a man. Just go ahead and take 25% of whatever he's bringing home and buy yourself a couple of happy meals. Hopefully before long,,,he'll find a really cool place that charges less rent ! I wish you all the best of luck.
Now for those suckasses at work................... You got to learn to deal with them and the best way is,,,,, just go to work,,,do your job to the best of your ability and ignore the suckasses. They eventually get used up and cast to the side,,,or across the street.
Whining about what they do,,,just makes you look whiney and I know you wouldn't want to do that. And they hire new suckasses everyday,,,or transfer them to you, get used to it !!
Good luck Dog,,,Oh,,, and as a MTW regular,,I say,,,"Mark the spot,,you're all ass !"

[Purple Dragon]

a lot of good advice there doggie.with the son ,you have to take money you can't keep him.it's tough with sons and stepsons,but they have to learn.your job qwazzy is right do your job you good at and ignore the asshole,he will get sick,those people are best ignored,i've learned that by experience.good luck we all here for you.....

[TATTOOED_1_ONE]

Kick his ass and make him get the GED and a job or get the hell out.

Tell him to kiss your ass or grab a broom handle and turn him onto a popcicle.

HAve a drink for me....or 12 damnit.